The life you want is built by the decisions you make.
And I help ambitious women make those decisions.
There’s something you want to start, stop, or change.
Maybe you already know what it is.
But then come the thoughts and feelings about actually doing it.
I’m not ready.
What if I get it wrong?
What will everyone think?
Maybe now isn’t the right time.
Those thoughts can feel like facts. And when they do, you start making decisions from them.
So you wait. You second-guess yourself. You look outside yourself for the answer.
And nothing changes.
There’s often a lot going on underneath a decision.
Sometimes you need to understand what’s influencing you before you can decide what to do next.
That’s where we start.
THE BECOME HER NOW METHOD™
You don’t have to wait until you’ve become her to start making decisions like her.
The Become Her Now Method™ helps you understand what’s keeping you where you are, decide what comes next, and start becoming the woman who creates the life she wants.
UNDERSTAND
We start by understanding where you are, what you want, and what’s keeping you from moving forward.
I help you see what’s influencing you - what you’re thinking and feeling, what you believe, and the stories you’ve been telling yourself that can start to feel like facts.
We get curious about what’s really going on, so you can see more clearly.
DECIDE
Once you can see what’s keeping you stuck, we get clear on what you want and what you want to do next.
Not what everyone else wants for you. What you want.
We decide what comes next without waiting until you feel completely certain.
BECOME
Making the decision is the beginning. Then you start living it.
We work on the choices that support where you’re going, especially when old thoughts, feelings, and patterns show up again.
You become her by making the decisions she would make, one decision at a time.
Imagine being the woman who knows what she wants and makes decisions from that place.
You understand yourself instead of constantly questioning yourself.
You stop looking to everyone else for the answer and start trusting yourself to decide.
You don’t need to know exactly how everything will turn out before you take the next step.
And when life doesn’t go the way you planned, you trust yourself to decide what comes next.
I know what it’s like when life doesn’t go to plan.
When I was nineteen, a car accident left me partially paralyzed. I was told I might never walk again.
I couldn’t change the accident, but I could decide what it was going to mean for my life.
I learned to walk again. But more importantly, I learned what I was capable of.
That experience showed me how the way we think and feel shapes what we do next.
Over time, I came to see the accident as one of the greatest gifts of my life. It taught me that other people didn’t get to decide what my future would look like. I got to decide that for myself.
And I chose to dedicate my work to helping women see what’s possible for themselves.
I believe women have far more power than they realize. We’ve just been conditioned to search for it everywhere except within ourselves.
I’m Amanda Lupis, founder of
The Become Her Now Method™
Coaching women around the world, including leaders at Macquarie Bank, Microsoft, Westpac and AIA Group.
Certified Life Coach, The Life Coach School
Certified Strategic Intervention Coach, Tony Robbins-Cloe Madanes Training
Integrative Nutritional Health Certification, Institute for Integrative Nutrition
Client Decisions & Results
“It feels empowering to know that what I say I am going to accomplish, I do.”
“I wanted to travel internationally again after being a caretaker for my father during Covid, but I had so many reasons in my mind why I couldn’t. I learned that what I believed were facts were often stories I thought were true. That really switched on a light bulb for me. I learned to focus on what I could control and take the next step forward, and then the step after that. I started traveling again and had phenomenal confidence that this could be done”
– Namrata Jolly, Microsoft Singapore
“I learned that I didn’t have to say yes to every client.”
“Being a self-employed interior designer, I constantly felt like I had to say yes to all of the jobs. I wasn’t able to work on my family and my business at the level I wanted to. I learned how to say no, set boundaries and have the confidence to tell clients when a project wasn’t right for me, my family or the future of my business. It took the weight off my shoulders.”
– Jen Cadman, Interior Designer, Sydney
“I am no longer a victim of time.”
I was in a never-ending cycle of catching up. I had so much to do, wasn’t getting it done, and was constantly feeling overwhelmed and guilty. I realized it wasn’t about being more organized. It was about understanding my priorities and what I actually wanted in my personal and professional life. I learned what my priorities and non-negotiables were and started making decisions around them. I am no longer a victim of time. It’s amazing how much has changed for me.”
– Alex Shaw, Naturopath & Homeopath, Sydney
“I finally asked myself, ‘What do I really want?’”
“I was going through my second divorce, and I couldn’t see the step ahead. I learned to focus on one thing at a time so I could move forward towards the vision I had for myself. For so long, I had focused on my spouse, my work, and my children. I finally made time to focus on myself and ask, ‘What do I really want?’ I rediscovered parts of myself. I’m a better leader at work, I’ve learned new skills, and I’ve addressed family relationships. My friends see the transformation in me. They see my glow and the smile on my face.”
– YanYan Li, AIA Group, Hong Kong
Private Coaching
What if you could look at your life and choose again?
What stays. What goes. What matters now. What you want next.
Not because your life is wrong. Because you’re allowed to choose again.
Maybe something you chose years ago no longer fits the woman you are now.
Maybe you’ve spent so much time thinking about what everyone else needs that you’ve stopped asking yourself what you want. Or maybe you simply know that something needs to change.
For 12 weeks, we work together privately on the life you’re living and the changes you want to make.
This is your opportunity to put yourself back at the center of your own life.
Instead of simply reacting to what’s happening around you, you become more intentional about how you want to live.
You choose what comes next.
12 weeks.
Just you & me.
We’ll meet privately on Zoom each week, with email support between sessions so the experience doesn’t stop when the call ends.
You bring your real life - the relationships, career, business, patterns, questions, and changes you’re navigating.
We’ll look at what’s actually happening, what’s keeping you where you are, and what you want to do next.
I coach women who are committed to creating change in their lives. Women who are ready to understand themselves more deeply and show up for the life they want to create.
You don’t need to have all the answers. You just need to be willing to find your own.
“Choosing Amanda as your coach will be a decision you’ll cherish forever.”
“Amanda’s words of wisdom have empowered me to become the best version of myself. She consistently checks in on me and supports me in reaching my goals. Trust me when I say, she was born for this.”
– Immaculée Ilibagiza, world-leading speaker on faith, hope, and forgiveness. New York Times best-selling author.
What will you decide next?
You don’t need to have the whole plan or know exactly how it will turn out.
Let’s figure out what comes next, together.